Archive | December, 2013

Happy 2014!

31 Dec


Human Relationships

21 Dec

I know this has been happening for a while now but, human relationships have been changing and becoming shorter and shorter.
I’m not old enough to say “back in my day…” but, I still can appreciate what my parents and grandparents say about it. I guess I’m “old fashioned” that way. I believe in taking the time to get to know a person, respect them, take them into consideration, build actual relationships… Regardless if it’s friendship or something more.

It’s sad to see how people just look for what the older generations call “instant gratification”. Not that I’m all against it but, when that is the norm, I think it becomes a problem.
People look at everyone and everything thinking “what can I get from it?”, “how will this benefit me now”, instead of looking inside and seeing how they can impact someone else’s life, for good or bad, depending on their actions.

Human relationships are losing their essence, starting from the very core… family. Wish people would take a look at themselves and see how much better they’d be if they cared. Most perfect example of this is the Holidays Season. I believe this is one of the few times, if not the only, unfortunately, some families spend time together. This year, that wasn’t even possible for a lot of them because now, not only we have “Black Friday” but, the stores were open the actual Thanksgiving day as well, “making” people be away from home and spend no time with those who really matter. If people can’t value the very first ones they interacted with and the ones who had loved them most, how will they treat anyone else any different? How will they have a relationship with others that are just a “passerby” in their eyes?

I was recently told I was “old enough” to understand that this is not how this world goes. Well, maybe there’s a little part in me, with an “old soul”, saying yes, I am old enough but to understand that it should. I refuse to get sucked in this “new” way of acting and thinking. I refuse to lose the opportunity to make a new (real) friend, the opportunity to connect with someone, and maybe find something more than that, but ultimately, mean something in people’s lives and them in mine.


“The Exception”

13 Dec

So, another one of my friends got engaged this past weekend. I’ve seen her go from some hard times in relationships to this amazing one right now.  We all knew this one was different…  The way she smiles, acts, is “care-free” and so herself shows someone who has finally found the person that really gets her, and would not change a thing about her.

They both were very set on not getting married again after each of their divorce, even after meeting and expressing their love for each other they still remained with that thought but, obviously something changed.  He said “you made me change my mind, will you marry me?”

That line made me think of that last scene of “He’s just not that into you” when he says “you’re my exception”.  Every girl meets a guy (or guys) that she wants to hear those words from, unfortunately it doesn’t always happen, and we move on.  My friend did, a couple of times, and she finally found the one that spoke those words, and meant it.  It’s not wanting to change someone, It’s being so special to someone that they want to share their life with you.

The other great thing about their story is that it shows how that moment can happen at any time in life.  Girls might think that they should be married (with kids) at a certain age but truth is, there’s no set time or age for this.  When it happens, it happens and no matter what age, place, time it does, you’ll be extremely happy it did.

Lose the “preconceived dates” that society, or you, have put on yourself.  Live your life, be open to experiences, and let things happen when the time is right.  Don’t force it, what’s meant to be will be.

Express yourself through pictures

4 Dec

Writing is not something that comes that easily to me.

It can be weeks or even months until I get an “inspiring” thought that brings me to an empty page in this blog.  Still, it’s something I enjoy, when it does happen, and will continue to write here but, for those “blank” moments in between, I’ve decided to express myself through pictures.

The way we see things, what we find beautiful, exciting, what attracts us to capture in a photo says a lot of who we are.  #nofilter or the way we play with them, #hashtags or none, #colors, #nature, #etc all show a little bit of us, our mood, our soul.

Follow @throughapurplelense on Instagram to see a little of what I’m about, and always check back here, I promise I will write as often as my thoughts run wild and inspiration hits.