Be Happy

11 Apr

I was listening to a podcast the other day where Kevin Hart was a guest.  He was talking about how people celebrate negativity more than anything else.  How people focus on the bad, extend it for weeks, even months, instead of looking for positive happy things to post or talk about.  He mentioned how even through scrutiny (I think we all know his Oscars story by now) he has remained positive and happy.

Happy is defined as feeling or showing pleasure or contentment.  Unfortunately a lot of people these days are refusing to feel happy.  Yes, I used the word “refusing”.  There is always something to be grateful for, to bring a smile to our face and celebrate, if we look for the positive.  When you focus on the bad and surrender to self-pity we are refusing to be happy.  You are making that choice.

Happiness comes from within.  You can’t blame others for how you feel.  That certain situations or experiences take the joy away from us, yes, it does happen, but don’t allow yourself to be consumed by it and change you.  Allow the experiences to touch you, and grow from them.  Don’t let them swallow you and make you miserable for the rest of your life.  The way you act is what you attract.  If you are constantly sad, angry, negative, even the people who try to help you see the world differently will eventually leave.  Not because they want to but because you push them away…  when you are consumed by those negative feelings you are almost incapable of seeing that people are there for you, that they are trying to pull you out of that darkness.  You are unaware that, while they are trying to be there for you, they too have troubles and sufferings.  In your self-pity you compare yourself to others that don’t have perfect lives but, in your head they do just because they chose to smile instead of letting something consume them.  You demand attention and expect everyone to feel sorry for you but not everyone wants to live that way, and nor should they.  Actually, neither should you.

There are so many ways to break away from this self-destructive path.  Define what’s making you upset, ask yourself why.  Writing about it or talking to someone about it might be very helpful.  Allow yourself to move past the pain, the hurt, the anger…  let it go.  Life will have more experiences for you and if you don’t let some go, they will pile up until the weight is too big for you to handle it anymore.  Allow friends to be there for you when they can.  Find things that make you happy and focus on them.  Be grateful, even for the smallest things, you can’t imagine what a difference this will make.  Stop reading or watching negative posts or media.  And a very important one… stop comparing yourself to others.  Be happy with who you are, and enjoy your own life, forget about what others think or say.

Going back to Kevin Hart, he said he was happy because he chooses to be.  He focuses on the important things, family, friends, being alive, being able to do what he loves.  Not letting what others think affect him so much, and not taking things so personal.  He mentioned how someone told him that his jokes weren’t that funny anymore, he’s reply “sorry it wasn’t great for you, I’m doing my best to make it better”.  With that reply he let it go and did not dwell on it.  He even takes some of those negative comments and turns them into material for his comedy shows.  Instead of letting them bring him down, he turns them into positives.

Let’s follow his example, and the example of many other that have turned their lives around after hardship and make the most out of every day and what they have. 

Let’s all choose to be Happy!

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