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To a positive 2020

27 Dec

The year is almost over and I have already seen a couple of post online starting with “it hasn’t been a great year” or “this year wasn’t perfect” or something along those lines.

Most of the people posting that have said the same thing about past years as well.  Which made me think…  If you keep focusing in the bad, that’s all you will see.

Yes, we all have ups and downs, no one’s life is perfect.  We live in world where there’s injustice, disillusion, hurt, and it affects all of us.  The difference is how we each deal with it.  This world has also love, happiness, friendship, adventures, new starts, and so many other things to be grateful for and concentrate on.

I am sure that when you look back, regardless of the bad you’ve experienced, you will have reasons to smile, and to say “that was a good time” and hence part of a good year.  This is what we should be saying to ourselves and posting.  Remember that we attract what we put out there… if we keep being negative nothing is going to change because that is what we are calling for.  So make the change!  It’s not hard. Think positive, celebrate the good, and keep it in your mind and heart.  You will see the transformation your life makes, and how lifted you will feel.  And with that feeling you’ll be able to spread the joy around.  After all, that is what this season is all about!

May you have a wonderful Holiday season and allow yourself to have a Happy New Year!

 

 

Be Happy

11 Apr

I was listening to a podcast the other day where Kevin Hart was a guest.  He was talking about how people celebrate negativity more than anything else.  How people focus on the bad, extend it for weeks, even months, instead of looking for positive happy things to post or talk about.  He mentioned how even through scrutiny (I think we all know his Oscars story by now) he has remained positive and happy.

Happy is defined as feeling or showing pleasure or contentment.  Unfortunately a lot of people these days are refusing to feel happy.  Yes, I used the word “refusing”.  There is always something to be grateful for, to bring a smile to our face and celebrate, if we look for the positive.  When you focus on the bad and surrender to self-pity we are refusing to be happy.  You are making that choice.

Happiness comes from within.  You can’t blame others for how you feel.  That certain situations or experiences take the joy away from us, yes, it does happen, but don’t allow yourself to be consumed by it and change you.  Allow the experiences to touch you, and grow from them.  Don’t let them swallow you and make you miserable for the rest of your life.  The way you act is what you attract.  If you are constantly sad, angry, negative, even the people who try to help you see the world differently will eventually leave.  Not because they want to but because you push them away…  when you are consumed by those negative feelings you are almost incapable of seeing that people are there for you, that they are trying to pull you out of that darkness.  You are unaware that, while they are trying to be there for you, they too have troubles and sufferings.  In your self-pity you compare yourself to others that don’t have perfect lives but, in your head they do just because they chose to smile instead of letting something consume them.  You demand attention and expect everyone to feel sorry for you but not everyone wants to live that way, and nor should they.  Actually, neither should you.

There are so many ways to break away from this self-destructive path.  Define what’s making you upset, ask yourself why.  Writing about it or talking to someone about it might be very helpful.  Allow yourself to move past the pain, the hurt, the anger…  let it go.  Life will have more experiences for you and if you don’t let some go, they will pile up until the weight is too big for you to handle it anymore.  Allow friends to be there for you when they can.  Find things that make you happy and focus on them.  Be grateful, even for the smallest things, you can’t imagine what a difference this will make.  Stop reading or watching negative posts or media.  And a very important one… stop comparing yourself to others.  Be happy with who you are, and enjoy your own life, forget about what others think or say.

Going back to Kevin Hart, he said he was happy because he chooses to be.  He focuses on the important things, family, friends, being alive, being able to do what he loves.  Not letting what others think affect him so much, and not taking things so personal.  He mentioned how someone told him that his jokes weren’t that funny anymore, he’s reply “sorry it wasn’t great for you, I’m doing my best to make it better”.  With that reply he let it go and did not dwell on it.  He even takes some of those negative comments and turns them into material for his comedy shows.  Instead of letting them bring him down, he turns them into positives.

Let’s follow his example, and the example of many other that have turned their lives around after hardship and make the most out of every day and what they have. 

Let’s all choose to be Happy!

Be and Live for Yourself

9 Jan

Happy 2019!  Yes, I know, I’m a bit late…  Lately it’s been hard to write.  Not sure why.  I’ve traveled, made new friends, made so many fun memories with them and old ones.  Family is good and growing, and had some very happy moments this past year.  Sometimes I think it’s easier to write when you feel a void or need to something get off your chest, thankfully this year that wasn’t the case for me.

My nephew was born, my niece keeps growing healthy and with every day becomes more and more fun to be around her.  

I’ve traveled to different countries and done things I thought I would never do:  Went in a cave with waterfalls, toured the Tikal ruins, Spent New Year’s eve in Nicaragua zip lining and going up a volcano, crossed a rope bridge over crocodiles, drank wine in Napa, and celebrated Christmas in NYC.  Also got the chance to see one of my favorite bands 3 times, and all of this with my best friend.

I also ended the year with my sister’s wedding.  She was the last of my siblings to get married and it was bittersweet.  Love how happy she is, but it was tough to “let go” of my companion for so many years.  She’s been with me since she was born.  We’ve been roommates, housemates, each other’s confidant, shoulder to cry on and laughing fit buddies.  We’ve gone through life together and everything in between.  Yes, I miss her being just a door away but so proud of the woman she’s become and happy to see her find her happily ever after.

So, now it’s just me…  yes, I will always be surrounded by my family and would not have it any other way but, with all the changes I’ve lived with my siblings and family I’ve decided my 2019 resolution is to move forward too!  To live my life for me.  To act and move toward what I want and deserve.  To learn to say no, and think about me and what makes me happy and healthy.  To learn to listen to myself and accept all the emotions that may come, as they are part of who I am.  To take time off when needed, to travel more, to exercise, to open myself to experiences and try to push away fear, to be in the moment and enjoy every single one of them.

In this era of social media, and everyone comparing themselves to others, of instant gratification, and seeking attention in any way possible, the above is very important.  We can get lost in this world, and forget who we are.  May that not happen to you, or me.  May we always be true to ourselves and be happy with who we are.

Wishing everyone a wonderful year ahead!

Believe

14 Nov

Sometimes, you have to believe…

That everything happens for a reason

That a closed door means another opens

That things happen for you and not to you

That everything is a lesson

That the pain will go away

That if it made you smile and happy it could not have been that bad

That regrets are useless

That there’s always tomorrow

That it’s not a goodbye but a see you later (soon)

That hope and love can move mountains

That there’s a bigger force looking after us

That everything works out in the end.

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