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My First 5K

22 Feb

As part of my “Living for Me” year resolution, I’ve started exercising.   Yes, I know this is what most people do when starting the new year and, a month or so later, the resolution falls flat and is forgotten.  I admit I have been one of those people more than once.   I’ve paid for gym memberships, classes, and went for a couple of days and give up…  special diets, and though some have worked, it has only been for a period of time and do not last.

I’ve always struggled with my weight, it’s been like a yo-yo, up and down my entire life.  And I’ve struggled even more with the fact that I have to exercise.  Now that I’m older, and after so many people and articles telling me how beneficial this is, not only for weight loss but health in general, I decided to give the gym another try.  I thought long and hard, and had an internal conversation with myself to commit to it.  So I paid the membership.

Not going to lie…  it’s hard.  Getting my butt to the gym still takes some convincing (from myself), but once I’m there I feel good and even better after.  Exercising, I’ve noticed, is a natural combat against stress.  While you work-out, even if it’s a 30 minute walk, you focus on the that, put some music on and forget about the rest of the day.  You push yourself to last a little longer, lift a little more weight, do one more day a week, etc.  While pushing yourself your body is alive, endorphins are released and blood flows, making your mind and (even when it’s sore) body happy.

I still have a long way to go.  I am still working on my endurance, and still pushing myself to make it a routine to go at least 4 – 5 times a week.  To keep me on track and avoid me quitting this time, I applied for my first 5K – Publix A1A 5K, in beautiful Fort Lauderdale.  I knew without some training I would not finish it, so that was my drive to go to the gym.  I did walk that 5K, I’m still not strong enough to run, but the fact that I did it, and finished without “dying”, made me want to keep going and get better.

Your state of mind, and commitment to yourself are the most important thing but having a support system is also key.  For me this has been a real help in this journey.  My family, boyfriend, and friends cheering me on, celebrating even me signing up, and letting me know how proud they are of me, for just taking care of myself, is a drive and a reminder of how much they love me, and helps me keep going even when my mind is stubborn and asking for a (not so needed) break.

The 5K was a great experience, and I already signed up for my second one.  I’m still a walker, but I do want to see some improvement in time and keep doing these until I’m ready to run, and who knows, even move up to a half marathon eventually.  The point is, that I’m not giving up this time…  I am committed, and taking the steps to reach goals and keep my resolution.  But not just a new year’s resolution…  a (healthy) life resolution!  Won’t you join me?


Be and Live for Yourself

9 Jan

Happy 2019!  Yes, I know, I’m a bit late…  Lately it’s been hard to write.  Not sure why.  I’ve traveled, made new friends, made so many fun memories with them and old ones.  Family is good and growing, and had some very happy moments this past year.  Sometimes I think it’s easier to write when you feel a void or need to something get off your chest, thankfully this year that wasn’t the case for me.

My nephew was born, my niece keeps growing healthy and with every day becomes more and more fun to be around her.  

I’ve traveled to different countries and done things I thought I would never do:  Went in a cave with waterfalls, toured the Tikal ruins, Spent New Year’s eve in Nicaragua zip lining and going up a volcano, crossed a rope bridge over crocodiles, drank wine in Napa, and celebrated Christmas in NYC.  Also got the chance to see one of my favorite bands 3 times, and all of this with my best friend.

I also ended the year with my sister’s wedding.  She was the last of my siblings to get married and it was bittersweet.  Love how happy she is, but it was tough to “let go” of my companion for so many years.  She’s been with me since she was born.  We’ve been roommates, housemates, each other’s confidant, shoulder to cry on and laughing fit buddies.  We’ve gone through life together and everything in between.  Yes, I miss her being just a door away but so proud of the woman she’s become and happy to see her find her happily ever after.

So, now it’s just me…  yes, I will always be surrounded by my family and would not have it any other way but, with all the changes I’ve lived with my siblings and family I’ve decided my 2019 resolution is to move forward too!  To live my life for me.  To act and move toward what I want and deserve.  To learn to say no, and think about me and what makes me happy and healthy.  To learn to listen to myself and accept all the emotions that may come, as they are part of who I am.  To take time off when needed, to travel more, to exercise, to open myself to experiences and try to push away fear, to be in the moment and enjoy every single one of them.

In this era of social media, and everyone comparing themselves to others, of instant gratification, and seeking attention in any way possible, the above is very important.  We can get lost in this world, and forget who we are.  May that not happen to you, or me.  May we always be true to ourselves and be happy with who we are.

Wishing everyone a wonderful year ahead!

You Choose

27 Jul

“What does it feel like to be present? To be here in the now and fully experiencing this moment. Free from any weight of the past or any anticipation of the future. Just free. Free to realize that only you can control how you feel. About anything. Free to see things for what they are and free to give your time and energy to what really matters. Accept the fact that everything that makes up your world is there because you attracted it with your own thoughts. Realize that you can control your thoughts and emotions. There’s no big secret. Just choose to think better feeling thoughts. Listen to your emotions and chose to feel good. You can decide to be in a place of attraction and abundance. What do you want to do in your life? What makes you tick? What makes you feel awe? Don’t be misled into thinking that you’re supposed to do anything. You are supposed to do only what you chose to do. The world is vast and full of possibilities. Follow your bliss. Get out of your comfort zone. Stop looking for reasons why you can’t and look for reasons why you can. And… if you can, you should.“

I read the above at the High On Life Youtube Channel.  This came at an unfortunate time in their lives…  they lost 3 of their friends on an accident but wanted to share their way of living with the world, and encourage all of us to keep living life to the fullest.

Yes, they mainly focused on travel adventures, on pushing those boundaries of country lines, fears, and just be free and dare to do things.  But if you read that quote carefully you realize it’s really about life, not just traveling.  And this is why I loved it so much when I read it.  Below are my favorite parts and how I interpret them.

How many times have we heard “Be Present” in this technology filled world?  We are constantly on our phones or tablets, that sometimes even forget the person who’s in front of us and talk to them.  But, this also applies to our minds.  Not only the technology takes us away from the moment, but our thoughts, being stock in the past, relieving past experiences, or over-analyzing the future deprives us of enjoying the moment and being present.  By allowing all these things to take rob us from this moment, we hurt ourselves.  You attract what you think, and if we give way to things we have no control over and create anxiety and fear in ourselves.

“Control your thoughts and emotions”.  Concentrate on positive things.  Be grateful for at least one different thing every day, you will soon realize how blessed and lucky you are.  Celebrate every step and accomplishment in your life, for as little as it may seem, they each take you to a bigger one and where you should be in life.  Smile, just because…  It’s contagious, therapeutic, and keeps you young.

“Decide to be in a place of attraction and abundance”.  This is another important reminder in the world we live in.  With depression, anxiety, addiction, natural disasters, and so many other things affecting people’s emotions, we need to work hard on ourselves to overcome the thoughts that bring us down.  We need to understand that ultimately it’s our choice how we feel.  Happiness comes from within.  If you are expecting it to come from others, or blaming others for how you feel, you are losing the battle.  Take a deep look inside, point out what’s making you feel the way you are, get help if needed and turn it around.  You have the power to do it, choose to see the glass “half full”, and with the possibility of it being full soon.

“You are supposed to do only what you chose to do”.  Timelines, expectations, society, etc. put a lot of pressure on us.  Throw all those misconceptions out the door.   Live your life, as mentioned above, in the moment!  Forget about how others are living their lives, comparing ourselves is poison to the soul.  When you live your life making your own choices, following your heart, you will not be worrying about anything other than “this is where I want to be and should be”.  It’s your choice, take ownership of your life and enjoy it!

As the quote says, this world is full of possibilities, if something isn’t going your way, change it.  Sure, it might not be easy, it might take time, but your attitude and way of dealing with those situations dictate how long or how hard it will be.  Again, you’re are in control of your emotions and life…  Even with its ups and downs, life is a wonderful gift; Own it, live it, enjoy it,  or let all the negative consume you and rob you from it.  You Choose!


Adjust your Attitude

18 Jan

I’ve never been one to make New Year’s Resolutions.  Have always believed that if you really want to achieve something, or change something, you don’t have to wait for a specific date to do it.  But, this past year, one of my friends sent a “challenge” on our group text.  She asked us to “think of one word that you want to guide you or achieve in 2017”.

I liked the word “guide”, to me it entails thought, consciousness, a process.  To me it’s something you work on and allow it to transform you.  A helpful companion.

I thought a bit and the word “attitude” was the one that came to mind.  The definition of attitude is:  a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person’s behavior.

It’s a constant fight, in a lot of us, to adjust the way we see things.  The way we perceive things is shaped by what we believe.  Sometimes, those believes are based on things we hear, or things we think we know or saw; things that we assume but have no facts of.

Our way of seeing things is also shaped by past experiences.  We allow those things to shape our world, to hold us hostage, in a sense, and are not able to see things in a different light.

This is why I chose this word to guide my new year, “attitude/ perception”.  I want to work on how I see things, how I let them affect me.  Work on understanding that I am the one who allows what hurts me, how long it hurts me, or if I just let it go, and leave it in the past.  Work on seeing things in a positive light, believe that things “happen for you, not to you”.   See that sometimes we allow our thoughts, imagination, or other people’s words/ experiences affect how we see things, but aren’t necessarily true.  That if we allow time to pass, or see things without a biased mind, we could be surprised and see a different outcome.

Sometimes by us closing ourselves, or allowing our “wrong” perception of things dictate our attitude, we miss on opportunities, and just create more misunderstandings, disillusions, and heartaches for ourselves and the ones around us.

I’ve always found writing is a great therapy.  This is one of the methods I’ve employed in the past and started again to help me with my 2017 challenge.

Writing helps you release all those thoughts and feelings.  It allows us to read them at a later time, analyze and better understand what we were going through.  Sometimes even realize that, we might have overreacted, that things weren’t as we thought at the moment, or they can validate what we felt and still feel.

Yes, we need people to talk to, to vent, but I’ve learned that, when we know ourselves, and are true to our feelings, we are our best listener and counsellor.

Make yourself open up, to yourself and life.  Allow yourself to see different sides of a thought, or situation.  Choose to pick the best case scenario, to be positive.

Adjust your attitude to benefit you, to see life in an optimistic light.  You are free to change how you react to things, and keep moving forward towards a happier you.


In every aspect of life…

4 Sep

In every aspect of life (family, friends, love and/or work):

I’ve learned…

That trust is a really big thing and really fragile

That a kiss can mean the world to someone, same as a hug, but absolutely nothing to the other

That a “relationship” can be broken in just one second

That said relationship wasn’t real…

I’ve seen…

How time after time I’m capable of forgiveness

That I can smile again, love again, and trust again

That past experiences do affect you but don’t define you

That I’m strong enough to move on

That things happen for a reason

That not everyone is meant to stay in your life, and that the people that are always do

That family and friends are the most important thing and the only ones you really can count on

I must…

Enjoy the moment

Trust myself and my “6th sense”

Know that happiness comes from within

Not rush or force things

Accept what we can’t change

Be patient, and pray

Know that everything always works out in the end


Let The Music Move You

1 Apr

Have you ever heard a song that transports you to some moment in the past?

What a question… of course you have!  We all have, and it’s not only one song but many…  Some take us back to happy times, some make us feel nostalgic, others make us think of people we love(d), others just make us feel happy, hopeful, and dance.

I started thinking about this the other day when, just with the first note of one song, I hadn’t heard in years, I was able to remember what movie it was from, the first time I heard it, what was happening in my life at that moment…  all that in just one note.

It’s amazing, and wonderful, the power music has on us.  They say everyone “dances to their own beat”, I believe this is true…  We consider ourselves spiritual beings but we’re all also musical.  I can’t imagine anyone not being affected by music, not being drawn by it, whatever genre you prefer.  It’s like it’s embedded in our souls.  Even without knowing we hold on to it, because it’s part of who we are.  So, let it move you, allow it to let you remember and wish, make it your own, and dance.


“You attract more bees with honey”

7 Mar

They say “you attract more bees with honey”, and I’ve experienced this to be true.

Where ever you go, regardless of language, race, culture, a smile and nice tone of voice will usually open any door, and help you have a great experience and interaction with people.

I’m not saying I’m perfect and practice it at all times…  we all lose our temper from time to time but, when that happens, and I see the results, I realize how true that saying is, and how it’s better to think before speaking, and that sometimes silence is the best answer.

At work is where, I think, we need to practice it more.  You see these people probably more than you see your family.  You didn’t chose them as friends, yet you are “forced” to interact with them sometimes more than you wish to.  There are so many different personalities, situations, etc.  Yes, it can be difficult sometimes but, again, I’ve found it best to just step back, breathe and find the best way to approach the person instead of reacting or attacking.  The fact that we’re in an office means we’re all adults…  let’s act like it.

Imagine how nice and productive it would be if we all work as a team.  If, instead of taking everything so personal, you stop and realize that maybe that person is having a bad day or personal problem.  We all have them…

Unfortunately this week has been a trying one at work, with tempers off the roof.  One word and you get yelled at or attitude.  As much as you try to keep the peace, or stay away of these situations, when it’s constant, and all around, you can’t help but feel tired, unmotivated, and like giving up, which is an awful feeling.

Talking to friends, I know this is a global issue…  so please, watch your manners, take others into consideration, and remember “patience is a virtue”…  practice makes perfect.

It’s Thursday, week’s almost over.  Thankfully I’ve managed to keep my tone and a smile on my face.  Hope we can all do the same, every day.