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Be Happy

11 Apr

I was listening to a podcast the other day where Kevin Hart was a guest.  He was talking about how people celebrate negativity more than anything else.  How people focus on the bad, extend it for weeks, even months, instead of looking for positive happy things to post or talk about.  He mentioned how even through scrutiny (I think we all know his Oscars story by now) he has remained positive and happy.

Happy is defined as feeling or showing pleasure or contentment.  Unfortunately a lot of people these days are refusing to feel happy.  Yes, I used the word “refusing”.  There is always something to be grateful for, to bring a smile to our face and celebrate, if we look for the positive.  When you focus on the bad and surrender to self-pity we are refusing to be happy.  You are making that choice.

Happiness comes from within.  You can’t blame others for how you feel.  That certain situations or experiences take the joy away from us, yes, it does happen, but don’t allow yourself to be consumed by it and change you.  Allow the experiences to touch you, and grow from them.  Don’t let them swallow you and make you miserable for the rest of your life.  The way you act is what you attract.  If you are constantly sad, angry, negative, even the people who try to help you see the world differently will eventually leave.  Not because they want to but because you push them away…  when you are consumed by those negative feelings you are almost incapable of seeing that people are there for you, that they are trying to pull you out of that darkness.  You are unaware that, while they are trying to be there for you, they too have troubles and sufferings.  In your self-pity you compare yourself to others that don’t have perfect lives but, in your head they do just because they chose to smile instead of letting something consume them.  You demand attention and expect everyone to feel sorry for you but not everyone wants to live that way, and nor should they.  Actually, neither should you.

There are so many ways to break away from this self-destructive path.  Define what’s making you upset, ask yourself why.  Writing about it or talking to someone about it might be very helpful.  Allow yourself to move past the pain, the hurt, the anger…  let it go.  Life will have more experiences for you and if you don’t let some go, they will pile up until the weight is too big for you to handle it anymore.  Allow friends to be there for you when they can.  Find things that make you happy and focus on them.  Be grateful, even for the smallest things, you can’t imagine what a difference this will make.  Stop reading or watching negative posts or media.  And a very important one… stop comparing yourself to others.  Be happy with who you are, and enjoy your own life, forget about what others think or say.

Going back to Kevin Hart, he said he was happy because he chooses to be.  He focuses on the important things, family, friends, being alive, being able to do what he loves.  Not letting what others think affect him so much, and not taking things so personal.  He mentioned how someone told him that his jokes weren’t that funny anymore, he’s reply “sorry it wasn’t great for you, I’m doing my best to make it better”.  With that reply he let it go and did not dwell on it.  He even takes some of those negative comments and turns them into material for his comedy shows.  Instead of letting them bring him down, he turns them into positives.

Let’s follow his example, and the example of many other that have turned their lives around after hardship and make the most out of every day and what they have. 

Let’s all choose to be Happy!

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Believe

14 Nov

Sometimes, you have to believe…

That everything happens for a reason

That a closed door means another opens

That things happen for you and not to you

That everything is a lesson

That the pain will go away

That if it made you smile and happy it could not have been that bad

That regrets are useless

That there’s always tomorrow

That it’s not a goodbye but a see you later (soon)

That hope and love can move mountains

That there’s a bigger force looking after us

That everything works out in the end.

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“You attract more bees with honey”

7 Mar

They say “you attract more bees with honey”, and I’ve experienced this to be true.

Where ever you go, regardless of language, race, culture, a smile and nice tone of voice will usually open any door, and help you have a great experience and interaction with people.

I’m not saying I’m perfect and practice it at all times…  we all lose our temper from time to time but, when that happens, and I see the results, I realize how true that saying is, and how it’s better to think before speaking, and that sometimes silence is the best answer.

At work is where, I think, we need to practice it more.  You see these people probably more than you see your family.  You didn’t chose them as friends, yet you are “forced” to interact with them sometimes more than you wish to.  There are so many different personalities, situations, etc.  Yes, it can be difficult sometimes but, again, I’ve found it best to just step back, breathe and find the best way to approach the person instead of reacting or attacking.  The fact that we’re in an office means we’re all adults…  let’s act like it.

Imagine how nice and productive it would be if we all work as a team.  If, instead of taking everything so personal, you stop and realize that maybe that person is having a bad day or personal problem.  We all have them…

Unfortunately this week has been a trying one at work, with tempers off the roof.  One word and you get yelled at or attitude.  As much as you try to keep the peace, or stay away of these situations, when it’s constant, and all around, you can’t help but feel tired, unmotivated, and like giving up, which is an awful feeling.

Talking to friends, I know this is a global issue…  so please, watch your manners, take others into consideration, and remember “patience is a virtue”…  practice makes perfect.

It’s Thursday, week’s almost over.  Thankfully I’ve managed to keep my tone and a smile on my face.  Hope we can all do the same, every day.

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No regrets…

13 Feb

Why do we feel “stupid” or regret when we fall for someone that doesn’t feel the same way about us?

Think about it…  how many times do you open up to someone, or go out with them, to find out they don’t feel the same and you feel foolish or like you wasted your time.  How many times has a friend said “oh, I’m telling you he (or she) is not interested so you don’t look “stupid” chasing after him”.

First of all, I think “chasing” has a negative connotation and maybe not the best word to use when it’s a real emotion the person is having (unless you are really doing that or stalking the person but, that’s another subject).
Second, why feel that way when your feelings are genuine / sincere?  Why apologize for, or deny your feelings?

We don’t get to choose who we like or fall in love with.  It just happens.  There’s obviously something that person has that attracts you to them, and there’s nothing wrong with that.  Yes, if the feeling isn’t mutual it hurts but, that doesn’t take anything away from you or makes you seem “stupid”, and I would definitely not consider it a waste of time.  You see, with every situation you live, you learn, you grow…  and before the heartbreak or disillusion you got to smile, hope, have expectations, and some good times.

I’ve always loved the quote below and its other two versions:
“Never regret anything you do, cause in the end it makes you who you are”
“…take chances and have no regrets, because at one point everything you did was exactly what you wanted”

What you feel is real, only you decide if it’s wrong or right for you.  As long as it’s honest, and if you decide to pursue it, enjoy it for as long as it lasts.  If for some unfortunate reason it ends, don’t let the hurt make you bitter, or be hard on yourself.  Don’t feel “stupid” and don’t regret it, take it as an experience, take the good from it, and move on, trusting something better will come.

never regret something that once made you smile