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Actions Speak Louder…

8 Aug

“Actions speak louder than words”

How many times have we heard that?  How many times have we experienced that?  How many times until you believe it?  Until you see it and move on?

People say they want to be in relationships.  That they like a person, that they want to give “this” a chance.  The initial excitement is mutual, you smile, you text, you find events and things in common to see each other.  You get more into a routine and things start slowing down.  You think it’s normal, you still want to give “this” a chance, and you keep going.

You text, and text, and text…

To ask about your day, you text

To say I miss you , you text

To say you feel something’s wrong, you text

To argue, you text.

… people just don’t talk anymore, and that is a huge problem.

Between text and text, there starts to be a disconnect.  You feel like there’s no effort put into “this”, like you are not worth anything else to that person, other than just a text.

Going back to actions…   A text is not one.  Making plans, and following with them is.  Celebrating achievements in someone’s life is.  Saying “we’ll do this together” and actually doing it is.  Saying you’ll be there and show up is.  The thought, contrary to what “they say”, is not what counts.  It’s actually even worst…  you thought about it but didn’t find that person worthy of following through with that thought.

Excuses are thrown left and right, of course, all through text, and “this” just keeps getting harder and harder.  Frustration, doubt, detachment, disillusion…  It’s done, and even though you tried talking it out, it ends up being as it all started, in a text.

It’s sad how our society has gone to something so impersonal to “build” relationships.  Dating apps, chats, texts, FB, no actual human contact.  I feel like sometimes people don’t know how to relate to each other anymore.

Thing is that those social media sites speak very loud about your actions.  While you throw excuses for not being there, social media tells the truth, and show your true actions…  where you were, what you rather be doing, and with whom, etc.  All your excuses and lies, exposed.  The same apps and sites that might have gotten you together, help break you.

Get off that phone!  Talk!  Establish and actual bond between you.  SHOW that you want “this”, don’t just text it.

Let your actions do the talk.  And, equally important, learn to listen to those.

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All That Gossip…

3 Jun

I’ve always tried my best to stay away from the line of gossip and drama.

I did pretty good during my high school and college years…  I escaped it without even a “scratch” and I really thought that by the end of those years I, and everyone else, would be in the clear.  So imagine my surprise, and somewhat disappointment, to see more of this in my “adult life” than I did before.  It’s like a lot of people regress instead of “growing up”.

Why are people so interested in other people’s lives?  How does it affect you what they wear, drive, where they live, or who they date or don’t?

In my opinion, if you were happy with your own life this would not happen…  Then again, social media does not make the matter any easier, and this is coming from an avid social media user…  I do think it helps connect people, and keep long distance relationships but, when used to pry, criticize, and gossip, that’s when I have a problem with it.

Unfortunately, I’ve come to realize, it’s human nature to talk about others, but let’s think about it…  gossip usually comes from assumptions, of half-stories we hear, of someone wanting to harm someone else so, why take a part of it?  Why not show that we are better as human beings, ignore it and put an end to it.  That way you protect the person who’s being talked about, and the one spreading the rumors of becoming a worst human being.  Also, you protect yourself…  who is to say the next target of the gossip isn’t you.

The time you spend hearing and spreading rumors, should be spent on your own life.  Work on making yourself happy, find a hobby, read a book, forgive, love, live!  If someone wronged you, or hurt you, or if you think the “grass is greener” on that other side, let it go, trying to hurt them by gossiping about them hurts you as well…  all that anger, or envy, or whatever consuming feeling that made you start that rumor will eat you inside and will never let you be happy.  So, forget the past, and don’t be so concerned about other people’s lives.  Live yours, treat each day as if it was your first and enjoy it.   Live and let live!

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