I’ve never been one to make New Year’s Resolutions. Have always believed that if you really want to achieve something, or change something, you don’t have to wait for a specific date to do it. But, this past year, one of my friends sent a “challenge” on our group text. She asked us to “think of one word that you want to guide you or achieve in 2017”.
I liked the word “guide”, to me it entails thought, consciousness, a process. To me it’s something you work on and allow it to transform you. A helpful companion.
I thought a bit and the word “attitude” was the one that came to mind. The definition of attitude is: a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person’s behavior.
It’s a constant fight, in a lot of us, to adjust the way we see things. The way we perceive things is shaped by what we believe. Sometimes, those believes are based on things we hear, or things we think we know or saw; things that we assume but have no facts of.
Our way of seeing things is also shaped by past experiences. We allow those things to shape our world, to hold us hostage, in a sense, and are not able to see things in a different light.
This is why I chose this word to guide my new year, “attitude/ perception”. I want to work on how I see things, how I let them affect me. Work on understanding that I am the one who allows what hurts me, how long it hurts me, or if I just let it go, and leave it in the past. Work on seeing things in a positive light, believe that things “happen for you, not to you”. See that sometimes we allow our thoughts, imagination, or other people’s words/ experiences affect how we see things, but aren’t necessarily true. That if we allow time to pass, or see things without a biased mind, we could be surprised and see a different outcome.
Sometimes by us closing ourselves, or allowing our “wrong” perception of things dictate our attitude, we miss on opportunities, and just create more misunderstandings, disillusions, and heartaches for ourselves and the ones around us.
I’ve always found writing is a great therapy. This is one of the methods I’ve employed in the past and started again to help me with my 2017 challenge.
Writing helps you release all those thoughts and feelings. It allows us to read them at a later time, analyze and better understand what we were going through. Sometimes even realize that, we might have overreacted, that things weren’t as we thought at the moment, or they can validate what we felt and still feel.
Yes, we need people to talk to, to vent, but I’ve learned that, when we know ourselves, and are true to our feelings, we are our best listener and counsellor.
Make yourself open up, to yourself and life. Allow yourself to see different sides of a thought, or situation. Choose to pick the best case scenario, to be positive.
Adjust your attitude to benefit you, to see life in an optimistic light. You are free to change how you react to things, and keep moving forward towards a happier you.