We do all sorts of things to ourselves in this life…
We scare ourselves by watching scary movies, skydiving, rollercoaster, etc.
We go through pain and invest long hours to look and feel better by plastic surgery, laser, hair & nail appointments.
We submit our head and heart to war when liking or falling for someone that (usually the brain knows) is not right for us.
We go into that “relationship” knowing that it’s meant to break or die but still we are stubborn and “cautiously” give it a try. We say we’ve prepared ourselves for the outcome, that we know it’s not forever, but in reality we are never prepared for the end.
You see, while you are with someone you create an attachment, feelings grow stronger, and that cautiousness fades. You become comfortable with that person, they make you happy, and you believe the relationship is possible. But the brain keeps saying “be careful!” while the heart keeps being hopeful, and there starts the war.
Unfortunately when those are at war, you are not at peace, and if you are not at peace, the “relationship” suffers, we suffer. We hurt, we cry, we miss the other person… So why put ourselves through it? Because we’re human, and it’s human nature to want to be with someone, to feel loved and needed, because there’s the attraction and (sometimes, if you’re lucky) amazing chemistry. Because it is wonderful to feel like you mean the world to someone, and feel like they need you and want you. Because we’re stubborn and think we can be the one to change that outcome.
We do this probably more than once in our lives… so, are we masochists? Ha! Maybe… but I’d like to think we’re hopeful instead. That we keep believing that there is one that will “change”, one that will want us and love us enough to stop the battle between the heart and the brain. Those should work together, not be at war. The brain is too rational, and the heart too emotional. I read once (and we may feel like) “sometimes the heart sees what the eyes can’t”. As true as this may be, the balance between them two is what we need.
I know it’s easier said than done but, hopefully we all find where the two meet soon, and stop suffering the effects of that war.